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The Pros and Cons of Including Children in Your Wedding

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As a wedding planner, I understand how important it is to create a special and memorable day for the happy couple. One topic that often comes up when planning a wedding is whether or not to include children in the festivities. While some couples may welcome the idea of having little ones running around, others may prefer a more adult-oriented affair. In this blog post, we'll explore the pros and cons of having children at weddings, from a wedding planner's perspective.

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Here are the pro's

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1. Family-friendly atmosphere

Including children in your wedding creates a family-friendly atmosphere that can be enjoyed by guests of all ages. It can also be a great way to bring together family members who may not have seen each other in a while.

2. Adorable moments

There's no denying that children can add a certain level of cuteness to any event. From flower girls and ring bearers to little ones on the dance floor, children can create some truly adorable moments that will be remembered for years to come. These moments can add a sense of fun and lightheartedness to your wedding.

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3. Make them a part of the wedding;

Including children in the ceremony itself can be a great way to make them feel like they are an important part of your special day. This can include roles like ring bearers, flower girls, and junior bridesmaids/groomsmen.

On the other hand; here are some things to consider:

1. There will be added costs

  • Childcare: If you don't have a trusted family member or friend who can watch the children during the wedding (and miss the wedding), you may need to hire a professional childcare service. This can add an additional cost to your wedding budget.

  • Insurance: If you are having an outdoor wedding, there may be liability concerns if children are running around unsupervised. This can be especially problematic if there are hazards like bodies of water or steep drop-offs nearby.

  • Additional guest needs: Including children in your wedding may mean that you need to provide additional accommodations, like high chairs and booster seats, as well as child-friendly meal options.

  • Entertainment: This can include activities like coloring books and games, as well as hosted dance parties and photo booths.

2. Noise and distractions:

Let's face it, children can be unpredictable. There is always a possibility that a child will have a tantrum during the ceremony or reception, which can be disruptive especially if you are having an outdoor wedding or if the venue is particularly echoey.


From the planners' heart...

Yes! If you do decide to include children, be sure to plan accordingly and provide accommodations that will make them feel welcome and included.

  • Plan special meals, something that they actually eat

  • Provide childcare options for the parents

  • Have entertainment and goodies

If you are going to do it -go all in and let them feel how happy you are that they are there.

I'll pass: If you decide against it, be sure to communicate your decision clearly and kindly to your guests starting from the invitation.

Maybe... I always like to find a middle ground.

Consider a hybrid; Weddings can be long affairs, and many children may not be able to handle the late nights and long hours. This can lead to cranky children and exhausted parents. Have them be a part of the ceremony and dinner, then have a sitter for them, it's a win-win, parents get to fully enjoy the night and not feel excluded because they have children.

Having them is always so special if you can -make space for it. I just love seeing them dance, having so much fun. Little girls just love the bride, it does not get sweeter than this.


Remember, your wedding day should be a reflection of your love and commitment to each other, and there is no right or wrong way to celebrate that love.

Whether or not to include children in your wedding is a personal decision that should be made with careful consideration. While there are certainly pros and cons to both options, it ultimately comes down to what is best for you and your partner.


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